Imagine if you ran for President? What forbidden pleasures would they find from your past? Or your present, for that matter. What would you do if millions found out some of the worst things you’ve ever said, either in public or in private? Scary, isn’t it? What if the public saw some of the most immoral places you’ve ever visited, either physically or online? How horrifying would that be? People you currently associate with, and people from your distant past………they would all know about what you did, what you said, and where you went. Admittedly, if someone publicly displayed the worst statement I ever made, I could never run for President…………because I would leave the country. I would be too embarrassed to stay. And the last time I checked, you have to actually live in the United States to be the President. So there is no hope for me to ever make it to the Oval Office (someone please shout ‘Amen’ here). The pain and embarrassment of my past wouldn’t be worth the power and notoriety that come with being President. I’ve heard too much horror about public shaming to ever willingly walk into it.
Better to Deal With Our Own Dirt
Public figures, especially politicians, are easy targets. There will always be something exposed in their life that will make you feel better about yours. If they are the opposing party, the media will make sure they always look really bad. And often times, trying to defend themselves only makes things worse. I’m not saying they are innocent of everything that is said about them. I’m saying that, no matter who they are or what kind of life they lead, they will always be slandered to one degree or another. It is just part of the game when you are in the public eye day after day. It happens to Donald Trump. It happens to Hillary Clinton. It would happen to you too. This is one reason why it is not healthy to consistently harp on the sins of others. Because if this pattern of ‘harping’ continues, you’ll start to look at everyone you meet through a fault-finding lens. If you are on this road, take a detour now.
How Close to Danger Are You?
So what is the evidence that you may be in danger of this? Well, for one, how do you speak about others when they are not with you? When you think of our unconverted leaders, do you criticize them more than you pray for them? Do you mostly have words of grace, or judgment? What about the social media threads that you find yourself commenting on? Do you comment on those specific threads because it makes you look better, or because you truly want to edify and protect the body of Christ? Do you comment more on threads that allow you to be gracious, or the ones where everyone is pointing fingers and pronouncing judgment? What about the poking fun and sarcasm? Is this more enjoyable than lifting people up? If you enjoy tearing others down, and always pointing out their faults, you have a serious spiritual deficiency. Remember, when you die, God is not going to judge you based on how you compare to Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton. He will judge you according to His perfect holy standard.
Redirect Your Eyes
Take your eyes off of Donald Trump for just a few moments. I realize it’s so hard to do that when the media keeps pounding away on every single thing he says and does. Not only that, but we are constantly reminded of all the bad things he ever said and did in the past. Even though the election is over, and Trump is the President-Elect, the dirt digging continues. Granted, much of what he has said deserves to be brought into the light and examined. And some of it should be outright condemned. But I’ve noticed that some people are over-fascinated with his faults. Some just have a beef with everything he does, and want to paint him as the worst lowlife to ever win a presidential election. Many people are just watching and waiting for him to screw up……and then of course, to let everyone on Facebook know just how “right” they were about not voting for him. It would be foolish to deny that this kind of thing is happening almost daily on social media. Not everyone is guilty, but some definitely are. Sadly, it is becoming normative to slander Trump, his family, and anyone that works with him. This approach isn’t working. Just take a look at the news. These are some sad days for the stars and stripes. There is a much better way to deal with all of this.
Slander Is Not Holy
The attitudes described above are not Christian. Exodus 22:28 states, “You shall not revile God, nor curse a ruler of your people.” Pretty clear text. And no, I am not condoning the sins that Trump has committed. I am simply saying that God is His Judge, and this obsession with his sins has got to stop. There is a serious warning here: a warning that we dare not miss as Christians. We can become distracted from our own sinfulness (and need to repent), by being more distracted over the sin of others, especially when we dislike that other person. And when we are too distracted from our own need to repent, we forget about how much we need Jesus every moment of every day. And sin goes unchecked in our Christian walk. Self-righteousness is not far away when this kind of thinking prevails. A skewed view of the cross is also not far away. We are a train wreck waiting to happen.
Be Careful of Holier-Than-Thou
Most unconverted men aren’t that different from Donald Trump. Not true you say? Guys, especially those of you who were saved later in life (like me), let’s be honest. What if some of your past interactions with women were exposed to the general public? You know…….the workplace flirting? Your time at the bars and clubs? The gym? Oh, and what about all the text messages and “private” chats you had? How would you feel if any of these messages were shown on the Nightly News? What about the next time you have dinner with your family? Would you be able to look your sister in the eye? I don’t know about you, but I would be mortified if some of my conversations were recorded and played back to the general public. The shame would be unbearable.
Sexual Idolatry
It is really scary just how the unregenerate male mind works. For most unsaved men, sex is his god…….or at least one of his primary gods. It’s usually what drives him. It’s what he thinks about. And when your heart is filled with the god of sex, the overflow comes out in conversations with attractive women. It is a sickening, but accurate, reality. Donald Trump certainly went too far in his recording. No question, bragging about groping women is wicked. But let’s be honest men. Most of us have been guilty of objectifying women in one way or another. Our sin is deserving of God’s wrath too. In our pre-Christian days, we often treated women as though they exist for our pleasure alone. Aren’t you glad they never put you on a hot mic?
Before Coming to Christ
When I think back on how I lived before I came to Christ, it really scares me. And it scares me even more to think about what I would have become……had God not so graciously intervened. But remembering how bad I was also helps me to appreciate Jesus even more. And for this reason, we ought to stop with the constant focus on the sins of Donald Trump. If we continue to talk about all of his faults, we are playing the ever dangerous “comparison game.” And when you play that game, you never appreciate the cross of Christ. What you appreciate is how good you are compared to others. If these thought patterns continue, they will destroy your peace. The Christian life will never be lived out with sacrificial love toward others. It’ll be lived out with a constant eye on the behavior of others, whether they are in the White House, or in your small group at church. You’ll get more pleasure out of observing than serving. Please don’t go there.
Ladies, Have You Been Guilty?
Ladies, it is difficult for me to say this, but it does need to be addressed. While I admit that Trump has been a womanizer in the past, and it is easy for us to paint him as an evil pervert, I must ask this question: Hasn’t Christ forgiven you of sexual sins? Can you claim any righteous superiority over him? Think for a moment. Have you done anything to contribute to the hyper-sexualized culture we find ourselves in? Anything at all? What if pictures you put up on a dating site, or social media account, went viral publicly during an election season? Did you ever send any racy pics to the opposite sex? If it ever came out that you did, how shameful and horrifying would that be for you? I mean, most everyone you know would see them! You know that “hole” that was created when your past dirt was dug up? It would now be time to crawl into that same hole and never come back out.
The Very Thought Of It Should Make You Blush
Imagine this. You’re a woman in the midst of campaigning for a prestigious government office. One day, you’re sitting in your living room watching CNN. You want to see how well you’re doing in the polls. You want to hear what your opponent is currently saying about you. And then, all of a sudden, there it is……..on your TV screen. It is a video of you from 10 years ago, before you met Jesus. Needless to say, your spring break outfit is shockingly immodest. And you are chugging a beer as you speak. Your drunkenness is painfully obvious to everyone. You may not even remember the day the video was taken. You probably don’t remember who those men are standing next to you. But now, because of that one crazy weekend years ago with your friends, millions of people now stereotype you as a drunken, promiscuous flirt. And you are publicly shamed for it. Worst of all, there is nothing you can do about it. Apparently an old boyfriend you broke up with now wants revenge. He found this picture and now wants to make life miserable for you. He finds joy in it. And as wrong as that is, people will stoop to such nastiness in a fallen world………with almost no guilt whatsoever. Does this hypothetical scenario frighten you? Does it soften your heart a bit more toward those in the public eye? Does it make you appreciate Jesus more for all that he has forgiven you?
We Are Not Better Than Trump, or Hillary
We all think we are though. But Christian, please listen to me. This is such a dangerous place to be. Believe me, I was there and it is not a good place. After the infamous recording played (of Trump bragging about groping women), I remember thinking how superior I was when it came to my treatment of women. I was comparing myself to Trump, and was so proud of myself for supposedly coming out on top. But God’s Word is powerful! Romans 12:3 states, “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.” And Scripture also says, “Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall” (1 Corinthians 10:12). It would be good to keep these passages stored in our hearts.
The Solution
As my web page title states, let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus! Not on Trump’s sins, and not on Hillary’s sins. All that will accomplish is making you feel more superior to others. And that will eventually drive a wedge between you and Jesus. And that is something you simply cannot afford. Keep your eyes on that precious cross, and you will have no desire to keep them fixed on the White House. And just to clarify, not all of you are guilty to the degree I am warning about. I am speaking in general terms here. But those of you who are guilty of building yourself up at the expense of others’ public shame, you ought to repent. Because at that moment, your soul is likely in more danger than either Trump or Hillary.
God knows all of your dirt. All of your filth. And yet, if you are in Christ, it has all been washed away. He will never dig it up and expose it. He will never publicly shame you for your dirt. Jesus underwent all of that public shame for you……..directly in your place. Praise His Holy Name!! And keep your eyes fixed on our glorious King!!
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This is a thought provoking and convicting post. Great thoughts!
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Thanks Beckie! 😊 I appreciate your feedback. It was convicting for me as I was writing it too.
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I know this is an older article, but it came up in my feed yesterday and I read it then and this morning again.
we really need to quit being apologists for Trump’s behaviour. Especially, Christian men need to stop it. As a woman and mother to daughters, I am horrified at how many Christian men have defended, downplayed, or called other Christians into question because they spoke out against it. I have never felt less safe stepping into a church, especially with my preteen daughter than I do after seeing this type of reaction nationwide. I understand, you said a few things about his behaviour being wrong but overall this article seems to be trying to normalize it and condemning others for pointing it out.
His behaviour is abominable before God and should be before us too. Yes, I have terrible sins in my past that are horrific and disgusting. Being forgiven doesn’t make them any less of an abomination. This type of behaviour in men has not always been normal and we should mourn that it is … Not use that as an excuse to downplay it.
Trump is my President now. I accept that. He has made at least one good appointment that I have seen. I’m not just trying to hate on Trump here. I’ve actually tried to refrain from commenting much at all on anything related to Trump. But, this is an issue women need to be heard on and I will lend my voice where I can.
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Thanks for commenting Hollie. There is a lot packed into what you’ve said. It’s one of those times I wish I were able to speak to you face to face, so there would be no misunderstanding. But as it is, I’ll do my best to respond in writing. I apologize ahead of time for the length. But I like to be thorough when we’re dealing with difficulties like this one. And just so this doesn’t turn into a novel, I’ll respond to 2 of the main points you brought up. Just to make it as clear as possible, I will copy each one directly from your own words, and then respond accordingly…..
1) “We really need to quit being apologists for Trump’s behaviour. Especially, Christian men need to stop it. As a woman and mother to daughters, I am horrified at how many Christian men have defended, downplayed, or called other Christians into question because they spoke out against it.”
I see two problems with these statements. The first is that it creates a ‘straw man’ argument. The purpose of my article was not to defend (or make excuses for) any of Trump’s behavior. At one point, I refer to it as wicked. At another point, I say that much of it should be condemned. That is far from being an apologist for his behavior. When you say that we need to “quit” being apologists, you make the assumption that my main purpose in writing was to defend Trump’s behavior. This is not the case. Perish the thought. I am not an apologist for anyone’s immorality, whether we’re talking about Trump or anyone else for that matter. Secondly, no Christian I know (male or female) is denying that what he did was sinful. Bragging about sexual conquests is evil. Such actions ought to be repented over, for the sexually immoral will not inherit God’s Kingdom. I have yet to hear any genuine Christian man say that Trump’s words we’re no big deal. No true Christian could ever deny the sinfulness of his infamous recording. And the Christians I know who voted for Trump (and this is a list of both male and female), would agree with me. They would never defend some of the things he said. Voting for Donald Trump should not be associated with condoning some of his past behavior. That would be an unfair correlation. I know several men and women who voted for him, and none of these people were overlooking his character, or defending it. For the most part, it came down to the issue of abortion, and Hillary’s unrelenting support of Planned Parenthood. In other words, his policies and Supreme Court picks, etc. (that is a different issue though, so I won’t get too deep into all that) My overall point is this: it is wrong to associate male Trump supporters, as a whole, with the label of ‘condoning’ his behavior simply because we voted for him. Also, posting blogs that simply challenge people to be careful about their own sins, and recognizing that we are no better than Trump, does not constitute condoning, apologizing or defending anything sinful Trump has done. It is simply to remind us what we should be doing now that he is President: praying for him and his family. The man has had death threats, and Melania has been threatened with rape. I think the time has come for the country to start uniting in prayer. Maybe if we did that, the anger and threats would begin to subside just a little bit.
2) I have never felt less safe stepping into a church, especially with my preteen daughter than I do after seeing this type of reaction nationwide.
This one really bothers me. It bothers me because you are a dear sister in Christ, as are your daughters. And yet, you say that you have never felt less safe in a church? What does this mean? Do you really mean to say that you are afraid of Christian men harming you because they voted for Trump, or as you say ‘downplayed’ his sins? It devastates me to think that you would be afraid of walking into what should be your greatest sanctuary in life, the visible church. What you are saying reminds me a lot of the James White “Dividing Line” episode where he discussed racial tensions after the election. I’m guessing you probably listened to that episode. I know that Josh posted it a few weeks back. It’s interesting that your statement is very similar to Jamar Tisby of RAAN, when he says that he doesn’t feel “safe” going into a church with white people after the election. If you haven’t listened to it yet, I would highly recommend it. Although it is not the exact same situation, both you and Tisby are thinking very similar. The only difference I see is that he argues from the premise of race, whereas you argue from the premise of gender. But both of you say the same thing: that you don’t feel safe in church. This is heartbreaking. This should not be, Hollie. Christian men are not perfect, and we all have flaws. But sister, we are horrified at even the thought that you would feel ‘unsafe’ around us. What does this suggest about our unity in Christ? What does it suggest about the love, care, and protection men are to show to the weaker vessel, if you don’t even feel safe around us? Walking into a church should not be like walking down a dark alley at night. It should be the opposite. It’s one thing to say that you’re angry with, or in disagreement with male Trump supporters, but it’s an entirely different thing to say you feel unsafe around them. Men who are bought with the precious blood of Jesus would never want any harm to come to a dear sister in Christ, no matter who we voted for. We hate Trump’s sin. We want him to repent and believe the gospel. Many of us just couldn’t handle the other option we had running for President. That’s all. I hope you will think a little more about what I said. I love you in Christ.
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Hi Jamie,
Thanks for responding. I told Josh this morning that I might have to clarify my statement about not feeling safe in church because I didn’t articulate it well. That’s my fault, sorry.
I didn’t mean safe as in I thought male Christians would sexually assault me when I walked in. I know that’s what my words implied. What I meant to communicate was, when I heard from Christian men across the nation that Trump’s behavior was normal or locker room talk, etc that it effected how I felt regarding the church as a safe haven. I was shocked and very uncomfortable that many church going men felt that way. And I watched other men get chided as self righteous when they tried to stand for righteousness. It was heart breaking. When James Dobson can say character matters when it pertains to Bill Clinton but then say it doesn’t matter because we aren’t electing a pastor in regards to Trump … something is terribly wrong. If I was ever in a situation of dealing with sexual assault I don’t think the men of the church (yes, I am generalizing) would defend me. They would probably tell me I was at fault somehow. (This isn’t just from Trump, but watching sexual scandals get covered up again and again from people who I thought were pretty good teachers) I think our American church is terribly sick. We are so desperately in need of the Great Physician. So much healing needs to happen.
For the record, I know most Americans voted for Trump because of the fear of Hillary. I’m not saying a vote was condoning his behavior. But the response of the church, specifically the men, was very weak.
My comments above shouldn’t have implied i am not praying for Trump or that I condone the disgusting things that have been said about his family. I don’t. I fiercely disagreed with nearly everything about Obama and prayed for him when he was a President. I am praying for Trump. He is my future president.
Anyway, we probably aren’t going to agree here, but I appreciate you listening 🙂
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